Thank you both for taking the time to give thorough answers to my questions.
Currently, I have a dedicated server through godaddy.com (dual 2.13 CPUs, 2GB of ram).... hopefully this can get me by for some time?
I understand the significance of having a community with 100,000 + members... *Just so ya know that I'm not just some hopeful newbie pulling an unrealistic number out of my butt... we have a good niche, the right backing, and good marketing ;)
The application I am developing (http://69.61.15.150/~true2our/) is taking much longer to develop than anticipated. It's using several different modules and I'm keeping my fingers crossed that everything is going to work together is perfect harmony.
When members join the community, there is a lot of simultaneous registration going on:
1. Whatever platform my developers are using for the 'my page' and basic community functions
2. Vbulletin forum
3. Wordpress MU
4. Video technology that allows members all the same functions as youtube (not yet active).
Wordpress MU is obviously handling the blog aspect of our community... I am the one that introduced WPMU to my developers, and they've already done some strange things with the application that are giving me knots in my stomach.
I originally decided to use WPMU for our application because I thought it would help our community site 'stand out' from others... I do not, however, want to end up with something that drains so much resources that it's unrealistic for a very high member site.
*I apologize for continuing to go on... I've been tackling this project single handily for over a year now and it's starting to take it's tole on me... I just want to finally get this project done right - or at least right enough where I can improve it after we reach 10,000 members, for example.
I appreciate all the insights and advice... it's very helpful!
*** oh ya, I'm not the Mark Olsen from Maine... I'm from Tampa Florida!